In the run up to Mother鈥檚 Day it鈥檚 hard to avoid the flowers, cards and gifts on sale, whether聽they are in the aisles of your local supermarket or adverts on the television.
For people whose mums have passed away, it can be a constant reminder of what they have lost and the grief they are facing.
But there鈥檚 no right or wrong way in how to approach days or anniversaries, such as Mothers鈥� Day, birthdays or Christmas if you are grieving the loss of your mum, says 香港六合彩精准资料 counsellor Susan Carr.
鈥淚鈥檝e noticed from the people I鈥檝e worked with who have lost their mum, that they are very aware of Mother鈥檚 Day approaching. Sometimes the anticipation and build-up, is worse than the day itself. It鈥檚 the uncertainty about not knowing how they are going to feel on the day,鈥� she said.
But what is often a difficult time of year for many, provides some people with another chance to celebrate their mother鈥檚 life.
鈥淪ome people will still think about marking the day. They may buy a Mother鈥檚 Day card and put it in a memory box, they may put flowers on their mother鈥檚 grave. They might go and release balloons in memory of their mum. 聽They might find these things helpful.
Do what feels right to you
鈥淏ut others may not want to mark Mother鈥檚 Day at all - and that鈥檚 fine. It鈥檚 about doing what you are comfortable with and what is right for you, not what you think you should do.
鈥淛ust recognising how you are feeling can help.鈥�
And of course, people who are grieving their own mothers, may have their children who are keen to celebrate Mother鈥檚 Day.
鈥淭his brings another aspect into it for some mums. Her children may be excited, presenting her with homemade cards, but she may not be feeling particularly joyous on that day,鈥� adds Susan.
鈥淚t鈥檚 ok to say 鈥業鈥檓 feeling a bit upset today鈥�. It may help the children too as they may be missing gran. It鈥檚 better to talk about it, rather than bottling it all up.
鈥淪ome people will need to have a good cry. It gives them that release and may help them enjoy the rest of the day.
鈥淭he most important thing is to remember to do what feels right to you. Don鈥檛 feel you have to react in a particular way on Mother鈥檚 Day.鈥�
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