A counsellor has been inspired to launch a support group for people who are mourning the loss of their mothers after the death of her own mum.

Susi De Lacey鈥檚 mum, Denise, died four years ago from myeloma, a form of cancer.

Susi, who has worked in mental health for聽more than 10 years, ran various support groups and later worked as a bereavement counsellor within the NHS.

She said her mum鈥檚 death, at 76, had a 鈥減rofound effect鈥� on her.

She was unable to take any time off work, but withdrew from her counselling training after her mum died. Two years later, when she returned to counselling, she began to think more about how she could help other people going through similar bereavements.

As she approached the fourth anniversary of her mother鈥檚 death, having noticed several clients also affected by the death of their mothers, Susi launched Missing Our Mums on Mothering Sunday.

Susi said: 鈥淢ore and more I鈥檝e come to see the profound effect that losing my mother has had on me. Your mum鈥檚 death can leave a huge void in your life 鈥� it鈥檚 important to know you鈥檙e not alone.鈥�

鈥淪ometimes it is just something like going to pick up the phone to your mum, and then having the realisation that she鈥檚 not there anymore. Other times, if you are the eldest or the only daughter, it may be you feel your siblings are now your responsibility, even though they maybe adults too.

聽鈥淚 really hope this group will be beneficial to people. There will be a lot of shared experiences, memories, thoughts and feelings. People will be able to cry, laugh and vent about how they feel. It will be a powerful, safe, supportive space.

鈥淚 will be saying very little about my own experience. This is the clients鈥� space 鈥� it鈥檚 not about me and my grief.鈥�

Denise and Susi

Denise and Susi.

Susi says it takes courage for people to take that big step and have the confidence to come to the sessions.

鈥淲e will be focusing on developing their connection to others; feeling they are capable of coping without their mum, and that they still matter. The aim is to help people feel stronger and able to move forward into the future.鈥�

鈥淭hey will gradually develop the insight to recognise how grief is affecting them, and start making changes to enable them to feel more positive about the future.

聽鈥淚 hope it will give people the freedom to be themselves and feel they are not alone.鈥�

An information session will be held at Life Therapy Centre in聽Swansea on the 17聽May which would have been Denise鈥檚 80th birthday.

The sessions will take place at the聽same venue from June.

For further details email: office@missingourmums.co.uk

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