In this issue
Features
Special focus
In praise of darkness听(free article)
Effie Lunn explores the darker aspects of life
Focus on older people
Denial and the ageing process
Jennie Cummings-Knight focuses on denial听and ageing
Perspectives
Spiritual therapy 鈥 a client鈥檚 perspective
鈥楥atherine May鈥 offers her appreciation of her听therapist鈥檚 spiritual approach
An ecological perspective
To the beach of stars
Keith Hackwood reflects on nature and spirituality
Review
One death caf茅, a play about dementia, two听workshops, a meander around a cemetery听and more than a few laughs
Amanda Anderson reviews her experience of听Oxford鈥檚 鈥楰icking the Bucket鈥 festival
Perspectives
On dying
Robert Jeffery reflects on death
Regulars
A pdf version of this issue is available from the听Thresholds听archive
Welcome from the editor
I have a couple of winter rituals involving music. Every year, I try to find time to go to an Oxford carol concert. Also, in the past few years, I鈥檝e become interested in Schubert鈥檚 song cycles and listen to Winterreise (Winter journey). Schubert wrote Winterreise at the age of 30, when he was dying of syphilis. The song cycle begins with a young man setting out on a journey into the winter darkness. In the first song, 鈥楪ood night鈥, the young man sings:
鈥業 cannot choose the time
Of my journey:
Must find my own way
In this darkness.
A moon beam goes along
As my companion,
And on the white meadows
I look for tracks of deer.鈥1
In this issue鈥檚 special focus, Effie Lunn encourages us to take a closer look at the archetypal topic of darkness. The so-called darker emotions (such as fear and anger) are so easily pushed away, and we often hurry to the light. As counsellors and therapists we need to examine our shadow and be prepared to encounter the darkness within us and around us. Our clients bring material to sessions that forces us to question our assumptions, our beliefs. Not knowing the way through the darkness and lingering in the places where we are stuck can feel awkward and challenging. In Robert Augustus Masters鈥 book, Spiritual Bypassing, he has a chapter on 鈥楬ealthy and unhealthy transcendence鈥:
鈥楧escending into our darker elements may be construed as a 鈥渄owner鈥 or a slippage, a failure, dropping into the 鈥渓ower鈥. We tend to either pathologize down-ness (especially when it shows up as negativity, fear, depression, shame, or contraction) or keep it at a considerable distance, as if it is just some sort of noxious or unwholesome substance鈥 But having to stay 鈥渦p鈥 cuts us off from our roots, our history, our ground. Having to stay 鈥渦p鈥 dilutes and impoverishes us, leaving us to feed mostly on recycled spiritual clich茅s and other heady souvenirs of secondhand living.鈥2
Jennie Cummings-Knight continues her focus on older people, with an article on denial. A quote from the Hindu text, the Maha-bha-rata, seems apt: 鈥極f all the world鈥檚 wonders, which is the most wonderful? That no man, though he sees others dying all around him, believes that he himself will die.鈥3
Often, it can feel like we鈥檙e in the dark about what clients feel about working with us. Catherine May鈥檚 beautifully illustrated article is a tribute to her work with her therapist. In it, she expresses a deep appreciation of her therapist鈥檚 spirituality.
In mid-November, I attended a conference at the Eden Project in Cornwall about the relationship of psychotherapy with the natural world. A beautiful setting for an important gathering of counsellors and therapists exploring this topic. Keith Hackwood continues his exploration with an article focusing on therapy from an ecological perspective. He mentions the rise of pathologising and how there seems to be a move towards the removal of all disease, using scientific methods.
I love listening to choral music and a few years ago, I found a recording of a choir from Belfast, the Ecclesium Choir, singing the Anima Christi. Robert Jeffery returns to some material he wrote, reflecting on this prayer.
As a Buddhist, I have done many meditations focusing on impermanence. I will never forget doing walking meditation towards a skeleton in Gaia House鈥檚 walking room. In many ways, it seems rather obvious that impermanence is a given, and I鈥檝e had experiences of how fleeting life can be. How fully can I embrace impermanence? I have a tendency to procrastinate and think that there鈥檚 always tomorrow. In early November, I was fortunate to have the opportunity to attend the 鈥楰icking the Bucket Festival鈥 in Oxford and I鈥檝e written about my experiences in this issue.
Irvin Yalom, the well-known American psychotherapist, has written a lot of material about death. In his textbook on existential psychotherapy, he reminds us: 鈥楧enial plays a central role in a therapist鈥檚 selective inattention to death in therapy鈥 Many therapists, though they have had long years of personal analysis, have not explored and worked through their personal terror of death; they phobically avoid the area in their personal lives and selectively inattend to obvious death-linked material in their psychotherapy practice.鈥 He then goes on to discuss the 鈥榬ole of death in the genesis of anxiety鈥.4 The Guardian recently published a thought-provoking series of articles on the topic of death and dying.5
I would like to wish all our readers a very happy and abundant New Year.
Amanda Anderson, editor
thresholds.editorial@bacp.co.uk
References
1. Bostridge I. Schubert鈥檚 winter journey: anatomy of an obsession. London: Faber & Faber; 2015.
2. Masters RA. Spiritual bypassing. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books; 2010.
3. Maha-bha - rata.
4. Yalom I. Existential psychotherapy. New York: BasicBooks; 1980.
5. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/death-and-dying (accessed 1 December 2016)